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The Sex Drive – What To Do About It! (Part 3)

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What do you do about your sex drive and how do you avoid all of the dangerous and deadly sex traps hidden within the sexual danger zone?

Here are the answers…

by Gillis Triplett

Driving Your Sex Drive Is Easy as A-B-C!
Controlling your sex drive and avoiding the sexual danger zone is easy as A-B-C. There are three simple steps you will need to take. You must:

  • Avoid
  • Believe, and
  • Carry Out!

You Must Avoid Men And Women Who Are Sexually Misguided
To avoid means to: 1. To stay clear of; to shun 2. To keep away from; to keep clear of; to endeavor not to meet, and 3. To abstain from. When it comes to sex, you must avoid sexually misguided men and women at all costs. If you do not, these individuals will inspire, trick, lure or seduce you to ruin your life. Who is on the list of the sexually misguided?

The list includes but is not limited to most sex experts, relationship experts, love experts, and misinformed politicians. It also includes peer pressure from a potential mate or from misguided parents. It includes the media, music and Hollywood, and organizations that openly peddle sexual immorality such as Planned Parenthood.

Why must you avoid these individuals, organizations and outlets, and the people they influence? Their philosophies concerning love, sex, relationships, and marriage will land you in the center of the sexual danger zone. What exactly do they believe? Take a look...

“Why is sexual innocence such a valued trait in a mate?”

“Losing your virginity is not a big deal no matter what anyone tells you. Get it over with as early as possible and be done with it.”

“Any knowledgeable, trained theologian will show you that the Bible DOES NOT teach against pre-marital sex! In fact, many of the disciples used to have public orgies! The ministers who falsely claim the Bible teaches against pre-marital sex are merely proselytizing our society with their self-imposed archaic dogma.”

“I don’t understand the value our obvious primitive society has placed on virginity at marriage… virginity is not a sign or purity or virtue.”

“It is impossible to remain sexually pure… no one can do it!”

“If children were taught to enjoy their sexuality at an early age, we would have less unwanted pregnancies, less STD’s, less fatherless homes and fewer abortions.”

“Having sex outside of marriage has nothing to do with your character or morality.”

“Go slowly and choose someone whom you find not only attractive but compatible and good company. And go on a few dates first before you give it up.”

“A new day has dawned… men no longer want to marry a virgin anymore, they want a woman with sexual experience!”

“Seriously, I don’t get it… What is it with this relatively new cult of virginity? Natural virginity, reborn virginity, repentant virgin…”

“Morality aside, what is the advantage of being a virgin on your wedding day?”

“Concerning homosexual men and lesbians marrying, one mayor said… "I think we're on firm legal footing and legal grounds, and certainly I believe very strongly and passionately we're on the right moral ground."

“Why is the state of a person’s body used to measure the purity of the person?”

“Losing one's virginity is the final frontier… it is the rite of passage into the adult world of sexuality.”

“We must push to get girls equal footing with boys in terms of sexuality, we MUST get past this false notion that it is morally wrong to enjoy sex outside of marriage!”

Those startling questions and appalling statements were made by an assortment of relationship experts, politicians, marital therapists, sex experts, adjunct professors, and other individuals recognized as leaders and promoters of the sexual revolution. Those are the type of beliefs fostered by the men and women who are the driving force behind the sexual revolution.

They claim if you teach a child to become sexually active, our society will have less STD’s, fewer abortions and less unwanted pregnancies. That is like saying, if we legalize drinking and driving, we will have less vehicle accidents. They say men no longer want to marry a virgin. What kind of men did they survey to come to that conclusion? Porno distributors, drug pushers and pimps? They also said they see nothing morally wrong with homosexuals marrying each other. These beliefs and others similar to them are the foundation of the sexual revolution.

The Sexual Revolution, Is It All That?
One way to define a revolution is: a total or radical change in one's circumstances way of thinking, or living. Focus your attention on the phrase: radical change. What they have changed from is the standard of God revealed in the Written Word. This sexual revolution has brought about a radical change to the way many people in our society view love, sex, relationships, and marriage. Today’s sexually revolutionized females flaunt their newfound freedom by randomly revealing their nakedness to complete strangers. These females gladly bare all at events such as the Mardi Gras, the world-renowned college spring breaks, on Girls Gone Wild videos, on the Howard Stern Show, in pornographic magazines, at nightclubs, virtually anywhere.

Like their role models, they will have sex with a stranger, marry a lothario, move-in with a philanderer, or become some man’s temporary booty call at the drop of a dime. These females seem to take on these mindsets. If Jennifer Lopez can have two divorces and a string of lovers and still have fun, “Why can’t I?” If Britney Spears can lose her virginity to one man, have a prolonged, open-mouth lesbian type kiss with a female on public television, and then have some major fun by getting married and divorced in 55 hours, “What’s wrong with me expressing my sexual freedom?” They reason within themselves, if Kim Cattrall, the actress who plays the eternally horny diva on HBO’s Sex and The City, can in real life, be divorced three times and still have multiple boyfriends, and apparently suffer no consequences, “I can too!”

The sexually misguided men fare no better. The have absolutely no morals, little or no family values, no concept of integrity or fidelity, and no respect for the female gender. Most of these men learn their misguided views about sex at an early age. Once they are indoctrinated into the sexual revolution, they will have sex with under aged girls, participate in orgies, have one-night stands, keep multiple sex partners, and some of them will experiment with homosexuality. In the end, their contribution to society will be measured by:

(a) The number of fatherless children their sperm is used to bring into this world
(b) The number of people they infect with sexually transmitted diseases
(c) The number of women they commit date rape and acquaintance rape against
(d) The number of women they force or coerce to get an abortion
(e) The number of women they force or coerce to have a miscarriage
(f) The number of women they glibly marry and then vigorously divorce
(g) The number of women they impregnate then abandon
(h) The number of women they commit domestic violence against

While these misguided men and women are exercising their sexual freedom, they are leaving a devastating wake of destruction in their paths. The alarming STD rates, suicides, paternity fraud cases, divorces and abortion statistics overwhelmingly verify that point. The problem is – sexually misguided men and women know the statistics, but they have ingeniously trained their minds to ignore them. They have become experts at refuting the truth. With condoms, birth control pills, spermicide and Ortho Evra patches in hand, they adamantly repudiate and flippantly disregard the possibility of becoming pregnant, contracting an STD, getting their heart broken, or having their emotions dragged through the unmerciful lover’s gauntlet.

In light of the Word of God and in spite of the alarming statistics, these men and women cast off all restraints, throw all caution to the wind and freely subject themselves to hazardous relationships and risky sexual encounters. I listened intently to one twenty-one year old man, (I’ll call Michael) right after he took his second HIV/AIDS test in less than a year. Michael is a heterosexual male who clearly understands that he is jeopardizing his health, life, and future by having multiple sex partners. But like all sexually misguided men and women, he was willing to live with those risks. Read what the Word of God says about men like Michael:

Proverbs 7:7
And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding,

God classifies Michael as one of the simple ones. Simple-minded men will see a sex trap but like a lamb to the slaughter, they will walk into the snare with their eyes wide open. For their lack of discipline, these men will pay a hefty price…

Proverbs 5:22-23 AMP
22 His own iniquities shall ensnare the wicked man, and he shall be held with the cords of his sin.
23 He will die for lack of discipline and instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he will go astray and be lost.

Like all sexually misguided men and women, once reality sets in and their risky relationships, booty calls, hook-ups and sex based marriages, metamorphoses into ghoulish nightmares, these misguided men and women inevitably end up where God said they would eventually find themselves: depressed, filled with deep regret and anguish, suicidal, crying in the dark, bitter, mad at women, and angry with men.

Proverbs 5:11-14 AMP
11 And you groan and mourn when your end comes, when your flesh and body are consumed,
12 And you say, How I hated instruction and discipline, and my heart despised reproof!
13 I have not obeyed the voice of my teachers nor submitted and consented to those who instructed me.
14 [The extent and boldness of] my sin involved almost all evil [in the estimation] of the congregation and the community.

Is this sexual revolution all that it is portrayed to be? The answer is: “Yes, it is pleasurable for a season but when that season is over and the season of pain, heartbreak and suffering comes rushing in like torrential flood, many sexually misguided men and women will finally break down and acknowledge the truth. Before their downfall, they are some of the boldest individuals you will ever meet! Do you remember Norma McCorvey? She was the woman who vigorously filed the Roe versus Wade lawsuit for abortion rights. Twenty-five years later she has reversed her position on abortion. Why did she change her mind? She said she had grown, "tired of the lies and deception and decided to come out and tell the truth." That is how the people who fuel the sexual revolution operate.

They will literally swear by their safe sex training. Yet when they test positive for the HIV virus, or when Herpes lesions break out on their genitals, or they are told they have contracted HPV, in spite of using condoms and practicing safe sex, their boldness quickly turns to bewilderment. When the women are told they have contracted PID, or that they will never have children because of the residual effects of their abortion, that is when disillusionment sets in. That is why you must avoid these individuals at all costs. Do not become one of them and do not allow any of them to influence you! The next step you will need to take is…

You Must Believe What The Word of God Says About Sex
It is critically important that you understand this next point, so read it carefully… It is not the will of God for you to fall into any of the sex traps. Please write that down! The Lord does not want you devastated by a sexually transmitted disease, broken hearted or bitter over a busted relationship, or suffering from paternity fraud or a victim of date rape. The primary line of defense the Lord has given you to protect yourself from avoiding sex traps is: you must believe what the Written Word of God says about sex. To believe means to have firm faith in. What does the Word of God say about sex and sexual immorality? Read it carefully…

I Thessalonians 4:1-9 NIV
1 Finally, brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to please God, as in fact you are living. Now we ask you and urge you in the Lord Jesus to do this more and more.
2 For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.
3 It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;
4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable,
5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God;
6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.
7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
8 Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

We are commanded to avoid sexual immorality and you must have firm faith in that command. In verse 8, God makes it clear. The men and women who reject this command are not rejecting man, nor or they rejecting laws established by men, they are rejecting Almighty God! In verse 5, God calls the individuals who reject His Word, heathens or pagans. No wonder the consequences of disobeying God’s commands are so devastating. If you do not firmly believe what God said about sex, you have by default, thrust yourself into the sexual danger zone. He further commands us…

1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP
Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

II Timothy 2:22
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

The statistics will verify that the majority of the men and women who disregard or reject these commands, find themselves drinking from the bitter cup of regret. You cannot ignore or disobey the commands of God and righteously expect your love life to be a picture of romantic tranquility or marital bliss. After you have firmly believed what God has said about sex, you must take the final step, which is…

You Must Carry Out The Word of God In Your Life
To carry out means to: 1. To put into practice or effect. 2. To follow or obey: carry out instructions. James, prompted by the Holy Spirit, put it like this:

James 1:22-23
22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
23 For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:

To avoid the sex traps and stay out of the sexual danger zone, you must be a doer of the Word of God. In other words you must shun sexual immorality and you must flee fornication. Paul, prompted by the Holy Spirit, put it like this…

1 Corinthians 9:27
But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.

It is your responsibility and your spiritual and moral obligation to bring your body into subjection. God has given each of us an irrevocable mandate to make our flesh submit to the will of God, (See Romans 6:12, Romans 8:13 and I Corinthians 6:20). If you fail or refuse to bring your body into subjection, I promise, your flesh will run buck wild! You will look back and see a trail of emotional trauma and heartache. However, if you take these three steps: (a) Avoid sexually misguided men and women. (b) Believe what the Word Of God says about sex, and (c) Carry out the Word of God in your life, you will never be snared into the sexual danger zone. When you take all three of these simple steps, it will be said of you…

Romans 6:14
For sin shall not have dominion over you…

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