Do You Expect To Marry Your Live-in Boyfriend?
In most cases when people move in together, at least one of
them is working under the assumption that they might eventually
After a comprehensive study, Dr. Wendy D. Manning discovered
that marriage was not the goal for all cohabiting couples.
More alarming is the mass number of women who now have a string
of live-in lovers on their relationship resume.
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Marriage Not The Goal For All Cohabiting Couples
Last Updated: 2002-11-21 10:00:31 -0400 (Reuters Health)
By Alison McCook
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Approximately one quarter of women
living with a man say they don't ever plan on marrying him,
according to new study findings.
This result suggests that for many people, living together
is not a step on the road to marriage, study author Dr. Wendy
D. Manning of Bowling Green State University in Ohio told
More couples live together out of wedlock than ever before,
and the reasons why some roommates prefer to stay unwed likely
vary, she said. Some may believe that marriage would not alter
their situation enough to make it worthwhile. Others may move
in with a mate with no plans to marry him, Manning suggested,
preferring the intimacy and companionship that comes from
a roommate, and not from a date or husband.
Others may have previously imagined they and their boyfriends
would marry, but reconsidered after sharing a residence, Manning
"They might learn from cohabitation that they really
don't want to marry them," she said.
Manning and her co-author, Dr. Pamela J. Smock of the University
of Michigan in Ann Arbor, determined the future wedding plans
of 772 women who said they were living with their boyfriends
by asking the question: "Do you expect to marry your
The findings are published in the November issue of the Journal
of Family Issues.
Although many respondents said they believed they would never
wed their partners, Manning explained in an interview that
cohabiting does not appear to be replacing marriage, for just
as many Americans are marrying now as before.
"So there are a lot of people who are cohabiting, they
want to get married some time, but they don't know when, or
with whom," she said.
Interestingly, she noted that one factor often linked to whether
or not a woman said she expected to marry her partner was
his income and education, with women partnered with men who
have a lower income or educational background less likely
to say they plan to marry. This relationship held true regardless
of how much money the woman was making, Manning noted.
These findings do not suggest that money is always a woman's
number one priority, Manning cautioned. Rather, she said that
she suspects that these women believe that economic stability
is a condition of marriage, and they don't want to marry--and
perhaps have children--without feeling financially secure.
In terms of why more unwed people are living together than
previously, Manning explained that the age at which people
are getting married has shown a "steady rise" over
the years. And extra time before matrimony gives people the
opportunity to have relationships and live with people other
than their future spouses, she noted.
SOURCE: Journal of Family Issues 2002 November.
Commentary by Gillis Triplett
When it comes to cohabitation, clearly, the losers are women.
They allow themselves to be exploited by dishonorable men.
These males gleefully test drive the wifely skills of these
women, taste test their Eros love, toy with their feelings
and hold their emotions hostage for six months to three years
and then abandon them.
Many of these women are left pregnant and alone, suffering
from abortions, depression, emotional instability, infected
with sexually transmitted diseases and left with the bills
from their failed pre-marital experiment. Not to mention,
some women just don't get it. Their relationship resume has
a list of male live-in lovers. The fact is, if these males
actually cared about these women, they would never put them
through the grueling process of sampling their physical body,
making false promises and then leaving them in the dust.
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